Insight of the Week

In some relationships, Love is the last word

What you are about to read is what one of my friends calls “Ruthless Dissection of the Relationship Dynamic”…sometimes little difficult but true.

No matter where you are in this world, you will see that all relationships begin somewhere. Some start with extensive wooing, some on instant attraction felt by both, some start of as friendships and then converge into a serious relationship. In India, some are initiated by your parents and your relatives who are deeply committed to see you married.

And then they all go through 4 phases…Well!! Not all. Some jump out of the ride in between as well. Very few reach the last step.

Phase 1: Uninformed Optimism:

During this phase, you and your partner are in a dream world. For e.g.…”Hey you like Thai food…you know what, even I love Thai”, or “You like movies? What r u saying? Even I like movies”. And so on and so forth. You begin to fall head over heels in love as you come to know every little thing about your partner. During this phase, both take great care about how they look, how they speak to each other, to present the best side. Every day you discover something new. It comes uninformed and worst part is, it is all positive. And there you go, building the visions of eternal togetherness, promising the moon and what not. This phase is time bound. From few weeks to few months it can last.